As human beings, we are natural pessimists. We always think of the negative – that something might go wrong and things will not go the way you want it to. It’s so easy to think that things will eventually take a turn for the worst. If you think about it, you don’t expect much you won’t end up being disappointed.
Mark Twain once said that “Courage is the mastery of fear, not the absence of fear.” But what does it really mean to have courage?
The thing about courage is not about not feeling fear. It’s actually feeling the fear but doing it anyway because you know it’s worth a try. Much has been said about the current crisis the world is facing right now and it is indeed a scary time. But this is not about that. It’s a different kind of courage we are going talk about.
When I was young, I thought my life was going nowhere and I would just end up unsuccessful. That uncertainty made me realize that I should be making a difference – not just for me but for my family as well.
I knew I had something in me that I just have to tap into – that’s courage. Easy to say hard to do, right? But let me just take this time to give some tips on how you would be able to have that courage in any situation you are in.
Here are some of my tips to boost your courage.
Acknowledge Your Fears
It may sound odd, but acknowledging your fears is actually the first step in boosting that courage. They say the first step in solving a problem is knowing that there is one. It’s about knowing yourself well. What are the things you’re afraid of? Why are you afraid of them? Are you willing to do something about them? These are just some of the things you need to ask yourself. From there, you’d at least get a clearer picture of where you are now.
Take One Step at a Time
Once you answer those three questions, the next thing you should do is to remind yourself to do something about it. It shouldn’t be drastic. Take one step at a time. if you are afraid to go out and meet new people, you shouldn’t be too pressured to suddenly act like you are the most confident person in the world. Go to public events with a friend or two who you’d be comfortable with. Fear will always hold you back, but it’s just a matter of making things easier for you. Embrace your fears but try not to hold on to them.
Work on Your Weaknesses
I’m not saying you should be able to overcome every single fear you have right away, but you have to be objective and think about the person you want to become. Fear is not always helpful. If I always thought that I was no good and I was always fearful that I would just make a fool of myself, I wouldn’t be where I am today. Sometimes the only thing that’s holding you back is yourself. Work on becoming better and overcoming your weaknesses.
Have that Strong Support Group
A strong support group is necessary to get out of your comfort zone. It can be a family member, a friend, or anyone you feel absolutely safe with. Let them know about your fears and what you are trying to do. In my case, my family has always been there to support me. While I understand that it’s not possible for everyone to have the same experience as I did, find that person who will push you to be the best version of yourself.
Breathe. You Are Only Human.
Ultimately, it’s up to you to make that change you want. I could go on and on about what worked for me, but at the end of the day, it’s your life. It’s also very important to understand to breathe and be more forgiving of yourself because we all make mistakes. You have to move forward and avoid looking back. I was able to get out of my situation when I was younger because I was not satisfied with how I was living. I knew that I had to at least try and change it.
You may be going through a difficult time right now but trust me, hardships are part of life – to challenge you and make you a stronger person. You have to believe that. I did it so can you.